Personnalité : ISFJ-T.

ESPRIT
Extraverti : 42%
Introverti : 58%

ÉNERGIE
Intuitif : 37%
Observateur : 63%

NATURE
Pensée : 23%
Sentiment : 77%

TACTIQUE
Jugement : 54%
Prospection : 46%

IDENTITÉ
Assuré : 64%
Prudent : 36%

« L’amour ne naît que dans le partage. On ne peut en avoir plus pour soi qu’en le donnant aux autres. »
Brian Tracy

Le type de personnalité des Défenseurs est tout à fait unique, car beaucoup de leurs qualités défient toute définition de leurs traits individuels. Bien que compréhensifs, les Défenseurs peuvent être farouches lorsqu’ils doivent protéger leur famille ou leurs amis. Bien que calmes et réservés, ils ont un sens solide du contact humain et des relations humaines approfondies. Bien qu’ils recherchent la stabilité et la sécurité, ils sont souvent réceptifs au changement et aux nouvelles idées. Comme tant de choses, les gens qui ont le type de personnalité « Défenseur » sont plus que la somme de leurs parties et c’est la manière dont ils utilisent ces points forts qui définit qui ils sont.

Les Défenseurs sont de vrais altruistes. Ils répondent à la bonté par encore plus de bonté et ils accueillent le travail et les gens en lesquels ils croient avec enthousiasme et générosité.
On aurait du mal à trouver un meilleur type pour former une proportion aussi grande de la population, quasiment 13 %. Associant ce qu’il y a de mieux dans la tradition avec le désir de bien faire, les Défenseurs se trouvent dans des secteurs d’activité qui exigent que l’on ait un sens de l’histoire, comme la médecine, l’enseignement universitaire et le travail social et de bienfaisance.

La Personnalité Défenseur (ISFJ-A / ISFJ-T)
Les Défenseurs sont souvent méticuleuses au point d’en être perfectionnistes, et bien qu’elles remettent les choses au lendemain, on peut toujours leur faire confiance pour que le travail soit fait dans les délais. Les Défenseurs prennent leurs responsabilités au sérieux : ils les dépassent systématiquement, font tout ce qu’ils peuvent pour dépasser les attentes et faire plaisir aux autres, au travail comme à la maison.

IL FAUT ETRE VU POUR ETRE CRU

Pour les Défenseurs, le défi est de faire en sorte que l’on remarque ce qu’ils font. Ils ont tendance à minimiser leurs accomplissements et, même si leur bonté est souvent respectée, des personnes plus cyniques et plus égoïstes sont susceptibles de profiter du dévouement et de l’humilité des Défenseurs en leur confiant un travail dont ils récolteront plus tard le mérite. Il faut que les Défenseurs sachent dire non et se défendre s’ils veulent conserver leur confiance et leur enthousiasme.

Naturellement sociables, qualité étrange pour des Introvertis, les Défenseurs utilisent leur excellente mémoire non pas pour retenir des données et des futilités mais pour se souvenir des gens et des informations relatives à leur vie. Quand on en vient au don de cadeaux, les Défenseurs n’ont pas leur pareil, car ils utilisent leur imagination et leur sensibilité naturelle pour exprimer leur générosité de façons qui touchent le coeur de leurs destinataires. Même si cela s’applique certainement à leurs collègues, que les gens qui ont le type de personnalité « Défenseur » considèrent souvent comme leurs amis personnels, c’est dans la famille que leurs expressions d’affection s’épanouissent pleinement.

SI JE PEUX TE PROTÉGER, JE LE FERAI

Les Défenseurs forment un groupe merveilleux qui reste rarement inactif tant qu’une cause digne de ce nom reste inachevée. La capacité qu’ont les Défenseurs d’entrer en contact intime avec les autres est sans pareil chez les Introvertis, et la joie qu’ils ressentent quand ils utilisent ces liens pour faire en sorte qu’une famille reste solidaire et heureuse est un don pour tous les gens impliqués. Il est possible qu’ils ne soient jamais vraiment à l’aise sous les feux de la rampe et ils peuvent se sentir coupables de s’attribuer le mérite qui leur est dû pour le travail d’équipe mais, s’ils peuvent garantir la reconnaissance de leurs efforts, leur travail pourra leur apporter un niveau de satisfaction dont beaucoup d’autres types de personnalité ne peuvent que rêver.

DEFENDER STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES.

Defender (ISFJ) strengths

- Supportive – Defenders are the universal helpers, sharing their knowledge, experience, time and energy with anyone who needs it, and all the more so with friends and family. People with this personality type strive for win-win situations, choosing empathy over judgment whenever possible. (à fond)

- Reliable and Patient – Rather than offering sporadic, excited rushes that leave things half finished, Defenders are meticulous and careful, taking a steady approach and bending with the needs of the situation just enough to accomplish their end goals. Defenders not only ensure that things are done to the highest standard, but often go well beyond what is required. (ouep)

- Imaginative and Observant – Defenders are very imaginative, and use this quality as an accessory to empathy, observing others’ emotional states and seeing things from their perspective. With their feet firmly planted on the ground, it is a very practical imagination, though they do find things quite fascinating and inspiring. (ouep)

- Enthusiastic – When the goal is right, Defenders take all this support, reliability and imagination and apply it to something they believe will make a difference in people’s lives – whether fighting poverty with a global initiative or simply making a customer’s day. (à fond)

- Loyal and Hard-Working – Given a little time, this enthusiasm grows into loyalty – Defender personalities often form an emotional attachment to the ideas and organizations they’ve dedicated themselves to. Anything short of meeting their obligations with good, hard work fails their own expectations. (à fond)

- Good Practical Skills – The best part is, Defenders have the practical sense to actually do something with all this altruism. If mundane, routine tasks are what need to be done, Defenders can see the beauty and harmony that they create, because they know that it helps them to care for their friends, family, and anyone else who needs it. (à fond)


Defender (ISFJ) weaknesses

- Humble and Shy – The meek shall inherit the earth, but it’s a long road if they receive no recognition at all. This is possibly Defenders’ biggest challenge, as they are so concerned with others’ feelings that they refuse to make their thoughts known, or to take any duly earned credit for their contributions. Defenders’ standards for themselves are also so high that, knowing they could have done some minor aspect of a task better, they often downplay their successes entirely. (à fond)

- Take Things Too Personally – Defenders have trouble separating personal and impersonal situations – any situation is still an interaction between two people, after all – and any negativity from conflict or criticism can carry over from their professional to their personal lives, and back again. (à fond)

- Repress Their Feelings – People with the Defender personality type are private and very sensitive, internalizing their feelings a great deal. Much in the way that Defenders protect others’ feelings, they must protect their own, and this lack of healthy emotional expression can lead to a lot of stress and frustration. (à fond)

- Overload Themselves – Their strong senses of duty and perfectionism combine with this aversion to emotional conflict to create a situation where it is far too easy for Defenders to overload themselves – or to be overloaded by others – as they struggle silently to meet everyone’s expectations, especially their own. (à fond)

- Reluctant to Change – These challenges can be particularly hard to address since Defender personalities value traditions and history highly in their decisions. A situation sometimes needs to reach a breaking point before Defenders are persuaded by circumstance, or the strong personality of a loved one, to alter course. (ouep)

- Too Altruistic – This is all compounded and reinforced by Defenders’ otherwise wonderful quality of altruism. Being such warm, good-natured people, Defenders are willing to let things slide, to believe that things will get better soon, to not burden others by accepting their offers of help, while their troubles mount unassisted. (à fond)

DEFENDER RELATIONSHIPS

When it comes to romantic relationships, Defenders’ kindness grows into a joy that is only found in taking care of their family and home, in being there for emotional and practical support whenever it’s needed. Home is where the heart is for people with the Defender personality type, and in no other area of their lives do they strive with such dedication to create the harmony and beauty they wish to see in the world.

The trouble is, these are the benefits of an established long-term relationship, and Defenders’ unbearable shyness means it can take a long time to reach this point. Defenders are most attractive when they are simply being themselves in a comfortable environment such as work, where their natural flow shows this kindness and dedication. Relationships built on established familiarity are a warm prospect for Defenders – they take dating seriously and only enter into relationships that have a real chance of lasting a lifetime.

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Defenders’ shyness and sensitivity shield what are, beneath the surface, incredibly strong feelings. While not always obvious to others, this river of emotion can’t be taken lightly or for granted – Defender personalities can value the idea of committed romance almost as highly as some regard religious beliefs. Hard as it may be, if either dating partner doubts their feelings, they must part ways before real emotional damage is done.

As their relationships do progress, Defenders often continue to struggle with emotional expression, but they have the opportunity to let physical affection stand in for their loving words. People with this personality type take no greater joy than in pleasing others, often even considering this a personal duty, and this applies to intimacy as well. While dutiful sex may not sound especially attractive in those specific terms, intimacy is tremendously important to Defenders, and they spare no effort in this department.

Nor is the pleasure they take in ensuring their partners’ happiness limited to the bedroom – Defenders spend an enormous amount of time and energy finding ways to keep their relationship satisfying for their partners. All they ask in return is commitment, love and, perhaps most of all, appreciation.

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However, not everyone is prepared to pay even that small price for the benefit of Defenders’ kindness. If their partners aren’t willing or able to express this thanks, or worse still are openly critical of their Defender partners, they will find that, given time and pressure, all of those repressed emotions can burst forth in massive verbal attacks that all the future regret in the world won’t blunt.

These outbursts are something to watch out for, but the more pervasive issue in Defenders’ relationships is that it can be too easy for their altruism and kindness to be taken advantage of, maybe even without their partners realizing it, while leaving Defenders’ own needs and dreams unfulfilled. This is something that Defenders’ partners, and Defender personalities themselves, must look after if they want the sort of long, fulfilling relationships they dream about. Expressing appreciation is often more than just the right words, it is reciprocation.

If these couples can manage this balance of mutual appreciation and goal-setting, they will come to find that the best Defender qualities emerge later in the relationship, as they work towards establishing families and homes together.
While perfectly capable in the workplace and among friends, Defenders’ true passions lie in taking care of their families, from playing with their children to the mundane needs of the household, efforts Defenders are only too happy to contribute.

Defenders are trustworthy, loyal, loving and faithful and nothing brings them more joy than the commitment of an appreciative and thriving relationship. The best matches are those who share these sensibilities, namely those who share the Observant (S) trait, with one or two opposing traits to ensure that both partners have room to grow, develop and help each other along, ’til the end of their days.

DEFENDER FRIENDS

Given how generous Defenders are with their warm praise and support, it’s not surprising that others enjoy their company enough to call them friends. The challenge is to be considered a friend back – people with the Defender personality type are shy and a little protective of themselves, but they also need to be able to connect on a deeper emotional level. It makes sense then that most of Defenders’ friends are made not by random encounters on a wild night out, but through comfortable and consistent contact, as in class or in the workplace where they have the time to get to know each other little by little.

A lot of what establishes and deepens Defenders’ friendships is the mutual support, advice and reassurance that the friends give each other.
Defenders need a lot of positive feedback, and admitting this need certainly shows vulnerability, but if that vulnerability is well handled, it creates the deep bonds that Defender personalities look for. If badly handled or not reciprocated, it’s hard to see the burgeoning friendship surviving without quite a bit of extra effort.

Yet, as their friendships develop, Defenders’ sense of loyalty may push them to lean ever more on themselves to meet their friends’ needs, to the point of neglecting their own. Defenders show this in a few ways, from going clearly out of their ways to stick to even trivial commitments, to simply not wanting to disagree or say no for fear of causing turbulence. More cynical types would call this naïve, and may even take advantage of Defenders’ altruism – but these are hardly the type of people who could be called “friends”, and they have no business being discussed here.

The real friends, those close inner circles, are the ones Defenders truly cherish for their quality of character and quality of discussion. Defenders aren’t particularly picky about what personality types they make friends with, at least not initially, but because they prefer so strongly to avoid conflict and miscommunication, most of their friends are likely to end up being fairly similar personalities.